The rewards in facing challenges

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Pain, sorrow, grief, fear, all these are considered negative emotions to be avoided at all cost. Yet, what we fail to realize is that they have a huge significance in our lives. They are in fact essential to our lives. A life without pain, sorrow, grief, and fear will know and appreciate so little; fantasies are nothing but meaningless ways to groom human souls. Every one of this undesirable emotions has a significance. There are lessons we can learn through pain, which we may never be able to learn through any other process. Same with grief, sorrow, disappointment, betrayal, and fear. And of course, same with adversity. 

Challenges are those experiences, which are undoubtedly undesirable, yet which test our mental, emotional, or physical strength. They are the means with which we come to be aware of the degree of our patience, perseverance, endurance, courage, mercy, fortitude, forgiveness, respect, sacrifice, and humility. They are indeed ‘the’ test of character, as they allow us learn about ourselves and others; we truly cannot understand the entirety of our character, and those of others, unless we (and others) face challenges. Do you want to know how merciful you are, or how much someone loves you? Challenges are the best ways to indicate these. 

Challenges reflect other people’s strengths and weaknesses like a mirror. In other words, they are a test of human emotional, spiritual, psychological, and physical limits. They test our boundaries and resistance to yield; they make us learn about our threshold for pain, stress, and discomfort. For example, would you steal a neighbor’s money lying beside you if you were very hungry? Would you go on to marry a woman who has no womb, even if she is one of the nicest and sweetest persons on the planet? Without challenges, we truly cannot measure one’s character. It is for this reason that while prosperity hides our true character, adversity shows it. 

If you want to know how much your family and friends love and respect you, adversity best shows this, not prosperity. While most people will drift towards you when you shine like the sun, they are more likely to drift away once your light begins to grow deem. This is because challenges have tested their limits. Like other people, you also have your limits. If we want to make a significant difference in our lives, we must strive to stretch beyond our limits. We should indeed value character growth, and the way to do so is to beat our limits. We should aim at becoming more courageous, patient, and hard working. We should also aim at becoming better sons, daughters, fathers, mothers, friends, etc. Facing up to challenges make this possible. 

Facing challenges have two major benefits. While they allow us become cognizant of our inherent character limits, they also make it possible for us to surpass these limits through courage and purposeful action. The backbone of any character growth is courage, and courage only exists when challenges are involved. In other words, you cannot exhibit courage unless you are facing a challenge. And you cannot experience character growth unless you courageously beat your challenges. Many of us face challenges every day. While some of us want to quit our addiction to alcohol, drugs, or fornication, others want to quit their addiction to laziness, anxiety, anger, or arrogance. Different forms of challenges exist, and overcoming these undesirable challenges will certainly reward us with desirable character growth.

Pain, sorrow, grief, fear, all these are considered negative emotions to be avoided at all cost. Yet, what we fail to realize is that they have a huge significance in our lives. They are in fact essential to our lives. A life without pain, sorrow, grief, and fear will know and appreciate so little; fantasies are nothing but meaningless ways to groom human souls. Every one of this undesirable emotions has a significance. There are lessons we can learn through pain, which we may never be able to learn through any other process. Same with grief, sorrow, disappointment, betrayal, and fear. And of course, same with adversity.