Children are priceless gifts from God. Their emergence into the world can be a blessing to thousands, millions, or even billions of people (Just as Steve Jobs and Elon Musk), if they have excellent parents as guardians and mentors. Most of the components of their characters are developed from the day they are born to the day they die. Particularly, they learn things faster and easier while they are still very young. Their formative years are the most critical stage of their life.
Children come into this world perfectly without knowledge. The knowledge they have are those which they adopt from their environment; especially from those closest to them. Very little can be said concerning their natural brain chemistry. They learn violence from a violent environment, respect from being among decent people, and other forms of positive or negative attitudes because of their dependence on those who they trust to know better and those who they depend on for survival.
What you teach your child is to a great extent what he or she is going to teach his or her child, and this may continue generationally. A child learns a lot from his/her immediate environment, and his/her exposure day in day out can shape his/her world-view. Parental influence is not the only influence that children are exposed to, but it does have a mammoth effect on their lives. However, as a parent, the primary ingredient to a child’s mental wellbeing is love. Adults who are unruly and insolent behave the way they do because they were not sufficiently loved by their parents.
Love is of great essence in a child’s life; absence of love is the root-cause of many vices in the world. A child who is not shown unconditional love by their parents grow up feeling insecure and hostile. If they are loved enough by their parents, they will feel valuable and desirable, and will be cheerful and generous towards other people. But because their parents don‘t love them enough, they become incapable of loving other people. Coupled with the inhumanities they face in a cruel environment, they tend to develop a tendency to be hostile.
Lack of love for one’s child gives rise to various emotional problems in a child’s life. Low self-esteem, low self-respect, timidity, anxiety, among other negative emotions are some of the products of not consistently showing your child how much you love him/her. Children need to constantly feel that they are unconditionally loved by their parents, and unconditional love must be shown as often as possible, through verbal expression, gestures, and nice treats.
If you raise your child lacking in self-respect and self-like, you have failed in your primary role as a parent. A child needs self-respect and self-like to function healthily in this world. Your parenting will significantly affect how he interacts with those in his environment and around the world in general. Humanity begets humanity, and self-respect begets self-respect. If your treat your child with respect, he or she will treat other people with respect. He or she will also go on to treat his or her children with respect. Thus, we may say that the issue of poor parenting can be passed down from one generation to the next; similarly, the issue of good parenting can be passed down from generation to generation.