How to be resilient

Photo by Martin on Pexels.com

Resilience is courage shown in times of adversity. It is the unwillingness to stay defeated. Perseverance is persistence towards the accomplishment of a goal, and ceaselessness in expanding the limit of one’s capabilities, regardless of difficulties and failure. It is continuity in an act to achieve something, despite setbacks. Resilience and perseverance are therefore very similar.

Before perseverance can be shown, there must be a goal in sight, and there must be a sense of urgency towards achieving such goal. Perseverance is therefore a virtue we should all strive to have. 

So, how can we be more perseverant?

Change your mentality

It is difficult to be perseverant, or to show it at the highest level, if you do not have an aspirational outlook. A person with an aspirational outlook strives to achieve meaningful goals, even when they don’t feel like it. To persevere, you must be active and aspiring, even when you don’t find it comfortable. A major difference between the perseverant man and his counterpart is that, the man who perseveres is not deterred by discomfort when accomplishing his goals; discomfort is not an obstacle. Yielding to the call of discomfort explains why the overwhelming majority of the human race is not accomplishing at the highest level. Therefore, you must be ready to be uncomfortable (your happiness is never compromised as a result), and believe that such mentality is perfectly normal, if you want to perform at the top level.

Invest your valuable resources on your pursuance

Being focused means being willing to direct virtually all your resources (time, money, energy, etc.) towards the accomplishment of a valuable goal in sight. Resources invested in achieving an important life goal are never wasted. Therefore, you need to get into the habit of directing much of your resources towards that goal you seek to accomplish, and less towards other things that are of less importance. You need to make the accomplishment of your goal a top priority, and most other things secondary and peripheral.

Resilient people are always conscious of how they allocate and use their resources. These people have a sense of urgency to what they do. They are always on the move, spending eighteen hours or more on those activities that are of great importance in their lives. They know when to relax, have sufficient sleep, and get back to work again. They set aside lots of money and buy those useful materials (books, food, lectures, etc.) that are required to enable them accomplish their goals. These people may have experienced failure, but also understand that failure is not eternal; they must stand up each time they fall to the ground.

Practice urgency

Our minds naturally have a way of making us procrastinate or delay important activities; making us think that we can always get back to them some other time. However, the reality is that one cannot live a sufficiently perseverant life by acting only when one feels like it. We are procrastinators by nature, because the human mind naturally drifts us towards comfort and away from discomfort. Yet, to be perseverant, we must learn to delay comfort, and embrace discomfort for a greater and more rewarding future comfort; an act that is not only punishing, but also more than a little difficult. The beauty in persevering, however, is that it promises a rewarding future.

When you are genuinely tired, do not deprive yourself of a good rest. If you do, you will overwork yourself and suffer for it. Planning your time is very important; therefore, create sufficient time for work and for rest. Set out your priorities, and act on them accordingly. Rome wasn’t built in a day; therefore, you don’t have to accomplish your goal in a day. However, you must allocate a chunk of time each day for those efforts that precede the culmination of your goal, bearing in mind that someday, as you persevere, you will get to the promise land.