Life is quite complex in the sense that it is never entirely pleasant or entirely unpleasant. Instead, it’s a mixture of pleasant and unpleasant experiences; the wonderful, the good, the bad, and the ugly. Comfort is good, happiness even better, but sadness, adversity, struggles, and disappointments also have their importance in every person’s life. First, they open our eyes to the privileges we have always had, the good things we have been taking for granted, the blessings we never acknowledged. And secondly, they teach us about life in ways other experiences would never be able to.
Even as we strive to live a life of bliss, free of struggles, disappointments, and hardships, there are certain sad realities about life we may have to live with, embrace, and cope with. Stated below are five of these sad realities we must learn to live with.
You can be loving, but there is no guarantee that you will be loved
As a human being, you only have the power and control to love another, but you do not have the power to make another person love you. Even if you succeed in getting other people to fancy you, you don’t have the power to sustain their affection and respect. However, you can choose to love others, because it’s your choice to make.
Therefore, you may find that you love, are kind to, and genuinely respect other people, but are not loved and respected in return. There is absolutely nothing you can do about that. Do not expect to be valued because you value other people. Just take it as a sad reality of life and live with it. Or simply choose to never value others; it’s up to you.
Some badly behaved people will always get away with being bad
The idea that the law of karma exists is questionable. There hasn’t been any valid evidence for this. But statistics has shown that a lot of corrupt individuals get away with being corrupt. Some people will cheat you, manipulate you, and rob others, and wouldn’t still face shit in life.
Also, some people will be very nice, benevolent, and caring, and still have cancer, lose their jobs, or suffer a great setback. Life is never fair, but it’s just what it is. There is absolutely nothing you can do about this reality of life, other than to accept it and live with it. This does not mean you should be badly behaved or corrupt. The reward for being well-behaved is that all you do will have meaning and worth. But not everyone suffers for being such a bad person.
Discrimination will happen to you, and there is nothing you can do about it
You will face racism, gender inequality, religious persecution, and other forms of discrimination and there is nothing you can do about it. Other people will disdain you, reject you, call you names, deny you employment based on one or more irrational reasons, but this is just how the world is. You must learn to embrace this reality and make the most of your life, because you can’t go all around begrudging or killing everyone who wrongs you.
You may have to live with all your past mistakes and bitter experiences
In order to be happier in our lives, many people advise that it is best to let go of our past mistakes and bitter experiences, and come to see ourselves as valuable and worthwhile people. Of course, we should see ourselves as valuable and worthwhile people, but what we can’t do is delete those mistakes we have made and those experiences that we have had, because they are a significant part of our lives too. Denial will never help us experience peace of mind. Acceptance is definitely the best.
One must accept that one has made some terrible choices, and then choose to make the best out of what is left in one’s life. One must accept that one has lost a family member or friend, and that the pain will always endure, but they’ve got to move on. One must also accept that one might have been abused, raped, ridiculed, tortured, or beaten, and these experiences are a significant part of them. But they should never choose to be defined by them. You are a great human being not because you have a clean slate, but because you have it in you to make a significant difference in this world. Whatever it is you’ve been through, you can still make a difference in so many lives.
Death comes to all, sooner or later
Death is inevitable, and everyone will die at some point. This is a sad reality because some of us will watch loved ones pass away and will not be able to do anything about it. Even loved ones will watch us pass away when our time comes. Death, in itself, teaches us that it is better to show love, than to focus on being loved; because at the end of it all, all is vanity.