10 things that are not important in life

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There are so many petty things we have interest in, or worry about. Yet, if we do away with these petty interests or petty worries, our lives would be much more fulfilling. Some of these include the listed. 

Heartbreak over someone who doesn’t love you

You shouldn’t be in love with someone who isn’t in love with you. If they show that they don’t want to be in a relationship with you, accept it and let it go. If they play games with you, avoid them at all cost. 

Comparing yourself with others

Comparing yourself with other people will make you both arrogant and insecure. While you feel superior to one person, you feel inferior to yet another. It certainly doesn’t speak well of your character. Accept that there will always be someone who is better than you, but you don’t have to worry about it because that is life. Just be you and improve every day. 

Being jealous is being stupid

Jealousy is a sign of possessiveness, and possessiveness is never love. When you love someone, you want them to be happy. People should want to be with you because they feel like it. If they don’t feel like it, then it’s time to let go. It is wrong to force people to be with you, or to control them because you don’t want to lose them. If you try to control them, you strain your relationship in the process. 

Understand that you either do not deserve the person you’re jealous of, or this person does not deserve you. Therefore, you should either trust this person or end the relationship. 

Stop dwelling on past mistakes

You did wrong, but hey, what you are worried about this moment will not matter in the next ten years. If you care about the next ten years, start taking advantage of the opportunities you have now. Do not dwell in the past. 

Winning petty arguments

Petty arguments aren’t worth your time and energy. They are not going to make you any richer or more successful. On the contrary, they are bound to make you more enemies. You are also supposed to invest your time and energy on something far more important. If you win petty arguments, you just prove that you have a petty mind. 

Being selfless to everyone all the time

You deserve to be happy, and you deserve to take care of yourself. Life is not fair, and all the problems in the world cannot be solved. Even if you sacrifice all that you have, you will merely perish without solving one-thousandth of the problems in the world. It’s okay if you can’t mend every broken bone. It’s okay to watch some people have a bad day and be unable to do anything about it. And of course, always consider your loved ones first- that’s the sad reality about life. 

Caring about what others think

You may need to care about what your loved ones think (because they matter to you), you should never care about what the rest of the world think. As far as you are concerned, they are in a world of their own. 

Holding a grudge

Holding a grudge will definitely eat you up inside. It’s a waste of your energy and attention. There are much more valuable activities to invest them on. 

Wanting to be like somebody else

You’re you, and you’re perfect the way you are. You may not be as intelligent, attractive, popular, or wealthy as somebody else. There are people who are definitely better than you, and you may never be able to be as good as them. Does that make you inferior? No. Just be you and accept your lot. Then improve yourself for improvement sake. 

Number of friends/followers and likes/upvotes on Social media

Honestly, to put simply, this is just stupid ego and a waste of time. All the approval and love you need are those from your loved ones.